Click on "commentary" under each step for detailed discussion
of the step.
Step 1:
I realize I'm stuck. It makes no sense to keep trying to solve my problems
with "solutions" that aren't working.
Original wording (AA):
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Codependency:
We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become
unmanageable.
Generic version:
We admitted we were powerless over things we believed we should
control -- that our lives had become unmanageable.
commentary
Step 2:
I'm willing to let go of my usual ways, in the hope that this will
help me see things from a broader perspective.
Original wording (AA):
Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us
to sanity.
commentary
Step 3:
I shift my focus, from being fixated on my problems, to
seeking a sense of wholeness and contentment in my life.
Original wording (AA):
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of our
Higher Power as we understood this Higher Power.
commentary
Step 4:
I honestly look at the effects of my actions on others and myself.
Original wording (AA):
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
commentary
Step 5:
I take responsibility for my actions.
Original wording (AA):
Admitted to our Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another human being
the exact nature of our wrongs.
commentary
Step 6:
I see that my knee-jerk reactions have to do with being in the grip
of more or less conscious fears.
Original wording (AA):
Were entirely ready to have our Higher Power remove all these defects
of character.
commentary
Step 7:
I strive to find my motivation in a deeper sense of who I
really am, rather than fear and defensiveness.
Original wording (AA):
Humbly asked our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.
commentary
Step 8:
I stop blaming and feeling blamed, with a willingness to heal the wounds.
Original wording (AA):
Made a list of all the people we had harmed, and became willing to make
amends to them all.
commentary
Step 9:
I swallow my pride, and sincerely apologize to people I've hurt, except
when it would be counterproductive.
Original wording (AA):
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to
do so would injure them or others.
commentary
Step 10:
I live mindfully, paying attention to the motives and effects of my
actions.
Original wording (AA):
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
admitted it.
commentary
Step 11:
I stay tuned inside, in touch with a broader sense of who I really
am, and a deeper sense of what I really want.
Original wording (AA):
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact
with our Higher Power as we understood this Higher Power, praying only
for knowledge of this Higher Power's will for us and the power to carry
that out.
commentary
Step 12:
As I feel better about myself, I reach out to others who feel stuck.
Original wording (AA & others):
Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these Steps, we tried
to carry this message to other (alcoholics, codependents, people who
feel stuck...); and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
commentary
The Proactive 12 Steps are an alternative inspired by the Twelve Steps
of Alcoholics Anolymous and other addiction programs.
The original Twelve Steps are reprinted from materials of Alcoholics
Anonymous World Services, Inc.
A.A. has neither reviewed nor approved the contents of this publication,
nor does A.A. necessarily agree with the views expressed herein.
A.A. is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - use of
the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities which are
patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or in any other
non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.
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