The quest for serenity, courage & wisdom

I seek

the serenity to accept what I cannot change;

the courage to change what I can;

and the wisdom to know the difference.

Another way to say this:

Control what you can...

Stop trying to control what you can't.

In other words:

Control is not a dirty word. The problem is when we keep trying to control what we have no business controlling.

This quest is not just about Serenity, it's also about Courage and, most importantly, Wisdom.

It is not just about learning to let go and learning courage. It is about knowing when to fight for change, and when to learn to live with what is.

In other words, blind acceptance of everything is not a virtue any more than indiscriminate fighting is. There is a time and place for each.

Wisdom is not something that is magically, suddenly imparted on us. It is a process.

We acquire wisdom by making decisions. Some of them work out well; some don’t. We learn through trial and error.

Part of the process is granting ourselves the permission to make the mistakes through which we may learn.

This is a secular (e.g. non-religious, non-theistic) version of what is known as the "Serenity Prayer". See full text of the original Serenity Prayer. See also: serenity prayer print pdf file

Serenity

Higher Power

Journey

Codependency

See 12 steps workbook: online from list of steps OR downloadable e-book

See also: other self-help resources.

The Proactive Twelve Steps describe a mindful path of personal growth that will speak to you whether you are Christian, Jewish, Buddhist... a secular humanist... or an atheist... See steps: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12