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If you're in the midst of a divorce, you're experiencing a lot of
pressures. Major decisions have to be made, about who keeps the marital
residence, how money is shared, how the children are cared for, etc...
All of this happens in a climate of distrust between you and your
partner.
You may feel that dealing with your feelings is a luxury you can't
afford at this time. You may be afraid that, if you were to be too conscious
of your emotions, you might no longer be capable of coping with the
pressures of your divorce. But it's just the opposite.
Divorce opens some of your deepest wounds... yours as well as your
partner's. You push each other's buttons. This makes it more and more
difficult to deal squarely with the issues. This is why the typical
divorce takes so long to be finalized.
You can't do much about your partner's wounds and emotional state.
But you can do a lot about yours. Dealing with your emotional issues
through divorce coaching will help you deal more efficiently with all
the other issues.
In other words, dealing with your emotional divorce is not just a way
to rebuild your life... it is also an investment in reducing the aggravation
of your divorce process.
See also: proactive counseling
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