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What is it that makes smart, talented people prone to feeling confused?
They aim higher than most, without being aware of their own drive
and ambition. In fact, they experience their efforts as a struggle
to barely cope, hence the sense of feeling stuck.
This may be related to perfectonism: when you're a perfectionist,
you're not aware of yourself as a perfectionist. You don't see that
you have high standards for yourself, you just see how you fall short
of these standards. You focus on your shortcomings rather than your
talents and achievements. You see yourself as confused, ambivalent,
powerless, or overwhelmed.
This vision of the world feels realistic: after all, you're failing
to meet your standards, aren't you? This is a vicious cycle that you
have to break.
To do this, I help you connect with a felt sense of what you really
want... your real goals... something that is going to motivate you
at a gut level... a powerful drive that will help you break through
the vicious cycle.
See: Proactive psychotherapy
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