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Self defeating (or self destructive) behavior


We all know that eating too much, drinking too much... are self-destructive behaviors. But some behaviors can be self-defeating without being so dramatically obvious. For instance, going to the mall when you need to save money... Or hanging out with friends who are a bad influence...

The drama of the self destructive behavior feeds on itself: After you compulsively act out a self-defeating behavior, you feel so guilty that you drave yourself crazy with shame. Instead of helping, this often creates a vicious cycle, where you end up alleviating the pain of feeling so much shame by acting out... and creating more guilt and shame... and so on...

You probably know that already: "I know it, but I can’t help it". Well... proactive counseling can help you find the inner resources to break free from this cycle of self-sabotage.

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