We all know that eating too much, drinking too much...
are self-destructive behaviors. But some behaviors can be self-defeating without being so dramatically
obvious. For instance, going to the mall when you need to save money...
Or hanging out with friends who are a bad influence...
The drama of the self destructive behavior feeds on itself: After
you compulsively act
you feel so guilty that you drave yourself crazy with shame.
Instead of helping, this often creates a vicious cycle, where you
alleviating the pain of feeling so much shame by acting out... and
creating more guilt and shame... and so on...
You probably know that already: "I know it, but I can’t
help it". Well... proactive counseling can help you find the inner
resources to break free from this cycle of self-sabotage.
See: Proactive psychotherapy