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New year's resolutions: New year, new mistakes



There was an episode of Seinfeld where George discovered something that changed his life. He was at the diner, with Jerry, and the waitress asked for what they wanted to eat. On the spur of the moment, he decided to order something different from his usual.

George said that, from now on, he would always do the exact opposite of what he was accustomed to do. After all, things weren’t working out for him, in terms of love or money, so why not do the opposite? And it worked: virtually instantly, he started getting attention, respect, love and money.

Eastern mystics talk about karma, about the laws of cause and effect. They believe that whatever happens, happens because something else caused it. So the challenge is to try and figure out what it is that caused it, and tinker with it until it works right for you

Of course, it’s easier said than done. It would be so easy if all it took was to do the exact opposite of what you’ve always done.

The idea is to allow yourself to deviate from what you’ve always done, in the spirit of experimentation. You don’t take for granted that there’s only one way to do things – the way you’re accustomed to. You’re willing to try other ways. You really don’t know what will work, you’re just trying.

This article is inspired by something a client told me: “I saw this quote a few weeks ago, ‘Make new mistakes.’  I just thought it was great because I’m always so concerned with making ‘the right’ decision that it just gave me a new goal.  Not to always find the right answer but mistakes are inevitable so just try to make some new ones instead of the old ones.”

In the coming new year, I wish you to make new mistakes.



Resources to effectively make & keep new year's resolutions

- Accountability: How to keep resolutions

- Why new year's resolutions fail & How to make them work

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