There is an enormous difference between talking about
what’s important to you, and actually doing something about it. Insight alone isn't much help if it doesn't turn into action. I help you make the changes you want, whether you have specific and concrete goals, or more subjective ones.
As I work with you, I pay attention to what goes on behind the
words you say -- the emotional content, the felt sense, all the subtle elements that are a gateway to deeper meanings.
This helps turn each session
into an experience that you learn from, at a much deeper level than you would from just talking about things.
How does lasting change happen? There's a shift that occurs, like something finally clicking into place. You really get it. It's not just words: You feel it. It feels right. You are truly motivated.
Motivation literally means: what drives you to action. It takes emotion, the experience of being moved... the experience of feeling the energy that fuels making the moves you need to make.
From this place, change is not an abstract goal. It is something that unfolds from inside out. You can taste it. You can smell it. From this place, you can’t help but change. My work is to help you find the sweet spot where this kind of deep, lasting change feels most obvious.
This state can be described as mindfulness. It is that quality of active engagement with your life that makes it more possible to make the changes you need, even when it is very difficult to make changes. I use the phrase proactive mindset instead of mindfulness to refer to what I do because, for many people, mindfulness is synonymous with meditation. So, if I called my work mindfulness, some people might think that I teach meditation, which is not the case.
"I believe that being proactive is not a mysterious quality that we
have, or don’t have. It is a way of dealing with things, that
we can develop and strengthen."
What we do during sessions is meant to help you develop a proactive mindset, a lasting ability to make the changes you want, from inside out.