Feel stuck? Get unstuck

I’ve noticed something very striking about the people who come to see me complaining that they’re feeling stuck. After a while, it often becomes clear that they are much more talented and much more ambitious than average.

Can I conclude that, if you feel confused or stuck, this is a sure sign that you have above-average capabilities?

Well, Albert Einstein, as a child, was a slow learner. We cannot conclude from this that all slow learners will turn out to be geniuses. But we can certainly be open to the possibility that at least some slow learners might turn out to develop into very smart people.

So I am open to the possibility that people who feel stuck might turn out to be people with the potential to achieve a lot, once they resolve the stuckness that holds them back.

To get unstuck, I help you connect with a felt sense of what you really want… your real goals… something that is going to motivate you at a gut level… a powerful drive that will help you break through the vicious cycle.

You need to see things from a different perspective. What I am talking about is getting in touch with where the energy really is, with the depth of your own motivation, with what you really want.

It’s amazing how often people who get stuck are people who cannot let themselves be really aware of what they want, because they believe, deep down, that they cannot have it!

Often, people who feel stuck are bumping their heads against “shoulds” that conflict with what they really want: It feels so impossible to get what you want that you don’t even have conscious access to it. You just feel a sense of defeat and powerlessness and confusion. Like a fog that makes it impossible to see where you’re going.

What is it that burns this fog off? It takes experiencing the felt sense of who you are and what you want. Your motivation.

Of course, motivation alone is not enough. All this freed-up energy has to be channeled into a realistic plan, and into consistent efforts to overcome the inevitable obstacles. This combination of motivation, planning, and follow-through is what makes change happen.